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April 1, 2015
Dear Mom (我的寶貝四千金) Episode 76
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April 1, 2015
It’s tough watching XX in this ep since the actress got pregnant in real life before marriage as well.
I think the parents are overreacting. It’s consensual sex between two adults. I don’t like that the parents treat their daughters like kids. All 4 are adults. Plus YH already said he’ll take care of her and the baby. Don’t get what the big deal is. The parents are way too conservative!
As it was explained before, they live in a conservative society. To have a trusted family friend date your daughter & impregnate her behind your back is almost like someone stabbing you behind your back. Not to mention all the damaging gossips from neighbors & others. In a conservative society, this is considered to be bringing shame upon your family. All 4 daughters may be adults but to a parent, their children will forever remain children in their eyes. So it can be hard for the Li parents to accept what happened.
I come from a conservative family background, living in a conservative society but I admit to having a rather modern approach to certain aspects of life. I can accept & respect other people’s wish to not be bound by tradition but that doesn’t mean I have to follow, criticize or ostracize them. It can be tough at times to find a balance between modern & conservative, but that’s what people learn to do.
Conservative customs were established long ago for a reason but we need to keep up to date with the changing times. We can’t expect the older generation to accept changes like pre-marital sex as easily as the younger generation. Bear in mind they were brought up at a time when it was frowned upon if you were to go clubbing or partying the night away.
Exactly. I think many of them need to get a live experiment at home. “Mummy! I’m dating my teacher now, the one you see before and I am pregnant now.” and I shall see their reactions. Tell me if any parents will say “cool! go ahead. let me choose the best wedding date.”
Conservative society.. Taiwan is not considered conservative, there’s many I heard of being pregnant before marriage. If it was 10years back, perhaps, it can still be considered conservative. But now.. I don’t think so.
I really liked what you said. I think it’s really important to respect the traditional values of different families even though we may not necessarily agree to some of the values ourselves. Every family has their own ways of raising their families and we should not judge or compare as long as it’s not something that is morally wrong. We need to learn to respect and see through their perspective to try to understand why they would react a certain way. I personally do not think the parents are overreacting at all. If I was a parent myself, I would definitely be just as upset. XX is only 23 years old and she’s still in school, her whole life will be affected drastically by this change. Yes, it was a consensual choice, but the choice could have been prevented and the consequences of the choice isn’t the future that both parents had hope for for their children. Being a parent at such a young age, especially when she’s not fully mature or ready herself, is a very tough road so it is understandable as a parents to be worried, upset and disappointed. I personally don’t think that the parents are upset because the incident will affect the family’s reputation or pride. Instead, I genuinely feel that the parents are more upset at the fact that YH (their close family friend) who should have known better betrayed their trust, and that their daughter’s future ahead will be a very difficult one. As Li Mama said, life isn’t as simple or rosy as we picture it to be. Even though the family is supportive, it doesn’t mean that they won’t face external stresses. So you can’t expect them to find out and just accept everything without scolding them for what they have done. As parents, they have the right to be mad as they are the ones who were responsible for disciplining / guiding them so that they can have the most out of their future.
XF and YW are quite the entertainment! Their conversation at the Li family’s dining table was just too funny! LOL 😛
Love XF and YW…
WOW! This episode is like fill with all sorts of new issues.
XX and YH did a great job acting out the scene. The most touching scene was him proposing. It was the sweetest thing, especially when he was talking about XX turned into a butterfly and would fly off. That part was the most touching and cutest thing ever.
Many people have commented on the fact that pride shouldn’t be an issue. However, I think I’ve become very westernized, so I don’t see it as an issue because life happens, and we should just deal with what has happened. However, at the same time, my parents are very tradition. So, being pregnant before marriage is a super big no-no in my family. Nowadays, being pregnant before marriage is such a common thing. The only issue tends to be who it is with and when this happened. I think if this happened to her older sisters and at a later age, the parents probably wouldn’t have mind. They probably would be happy because their daughter is going to get married. However, because XX was still a student, they wanted her to finish being a student and have a real career for her sake. Also, YH is her teacher, some may think it is not as scandalous because she is old enough to make decisions. However, in Asia, it is such a frowned upon issue especially because he is a teacher. People in Asia tends to be harsher with their comments. For example, when the father comes home, YH’s dad said that they didn’t control their daughter. Considering how someone like YH’s dad would say that, what makes others won’t say the same thing or even more harsher words. I think those who are all confused and find it odd that the parents are making a big fuss out of nothing, simply don’t understand how these old tradition could affect the family. You may have the privilege of living in a family with parents who are open about these things, however, living in a traditional family is very different. Therefore, this drama does a great job showing people the life of kids living in traditional families.
I loved this episode, XX and YH acted it out very well and very touching! They are my fav couple.
The show would be even more dramatic if one of their daughters came out as a lesbian. LOL. Just imaging the look on mom’s face :D:D
oh god no.
I wonder…. Maybe the big sister never got divorce ?! She just left with her son… How else to explain the husband now looking for her.. Probably want to get the son back!! What a drama x
I think it’s a good story plot to show how parents think for their kids and the different kinds of scenarios for marriage.
1) look into how divorced woman with a kid marry another man, and had another family hard to accept her.
2) look into how one lady interrupt a married couple and never get blessings.
3) look into how two couple in love but family background can affect both families view.
4) look into one who want gets pregnant before marriage at a circumstances when both are not in an acceptable role.
Actually, this show is good as they show good people have good endings. They teaches people moral values, ethnics, cultural behavior, and family values.
5) I see every different age reacts differently. Haha. Chill and enjoy.
it’s a good show, very realistic, but i can’t help feel that the directors spoilt the show by making xiao xi pregnant, especially since yu hang is a teacher. a teacher-student relationship is already forbidden, and while i feel it’s alright for them to get together but only announce it after she grad, not this way.
really don’t like how yuhang, the mr nice gentlemen guy is ruined in the show now = but oh wells, lets hope the next 8 episodes can be a salvage
I don’t know about that. If you think about it, she is old enough to make her decision. As for the teacher-student relationship I would understand if the student is so young to the point where he or she doesn’t know what is right or wrong. But Xiao Xi is 21 or 22, old enough to know what is right and wrong. I think that the fact YH wants to take responsibility shows that he is a great guy. I know a lot of guys will just run away or even said the child is not his.
I don’t like how the parents keep blaming YH. Seriously, you don’t need you to reflect on the fact that your daughter was an active participant in the activity of creating a child. It is already done, the parents need to stop blaming and figure out how to solve the problem, such as let them get marry, and support their daughter.
yes, 20 may be a age where she knows what she’s doing already, but the fact that she is still a student, they should have held it back till she grad since it’s just less than a year to go. if she’s mature she would have thought of it and it would reflect better on her and yh. her parents will see her maturity and accept it.
i think the parents are actually upset at the fact that they trusted YH to be a mentor, teacher to XX and not a bf / husband with intimate relationship that’s why they’re so, so angry.
he actually calls them feng jie / guang ge instead of auntie / uncle thus he’s like, supposed to be an uncle to XX and different generation. (a more traditional asian outlook / culture of seniority) thus it’s like a uncle/niece relationship. but yea.. just let them get married and accept it already……. they need to stop dragging. urgh
yh and aq are the same age
I crieddddd…
Hope QQ accepts SM.
Yes, having sex before marriage is wrong. If Aborting child is their next option, they will be making another big mistake. Since if a mistake is already made, no point crying over split milk, they should face it.And i understand that parent want the best for their child and wan to be proud of them. But seriously does pride really matter? So what if others give that kind of stare or look? It’s what they have to bear as consequences then let them bear and face it with courage. People make mistakes and these mistakes are what make them grow up. If a child is fully protected since young, the kid will never be able to overcome bad situations in his or her life. Life’s will never be always smooth sailing, only through bad experiences we learn and not make the same mistakes. Making mistakes is not shameful, what’s shameful is not knowing and acknowledging the mistakes and not changing to be better. Since what’s done cannot be undone, then change for the better and look ahead.
Being angry doesn’t help. They just need some time to digest. Yes, to the world standard, it is not right to be pregnant without proper marriage. But, a lot of people divorce after being marry and having a child. So, I don’t think it is that bad, besides, YH is AQ’s classmate, I don’t see why they can’t be together, just because YH calls Li Ma and Li Ba brother and sister, doesn’t mean a thing at all. No one can controls love. Family, friends, siblings, and romance, they all have its way and forms. I believe growing up with a person and fell in love is a good thing.
Seriously I know they are wrong… But the parent only know how to be angry… Then how? They want xx to abort? I seriously I think being angry is understandable…. But need to know how to move on right
It’s just like u broke up and u need time to recover and move on. The parents are shocked and need time to cool down. But bcz yh is a teacher and as a good role, he shouldn’t be having sex with his student.(although we all know they grow up together) In Asia culture, pregnant before marriage is already not nice(even if today u had seen a lot, both their parents must have really cooled down and accept it) a teacher and student rls Is bad enough for reputation, of coz it’s worse for them when they gt pregnant before marriage. Which parents on earth can accept this in a few days is already too kind.
EXACTLY!!! many people here don’t understand asian culture or are asians who are really westernized then. coming from a family that is very similar to li family, i totally understand why the parents are so angry. even if they eventually accept teacher-student relationship, pregnant b4 marriage is just wrong. their RS can be accepted but pregnant while they are still student-teacher is just a total scandal be it at school, neighbors, etc. trust me, the comments they receive in real life would be VERY nasty if this is real.
shocked at the comment below, pregnant so what? wow… what are people teaching their kids nowadays… respect the culture of where this story is set at. at taiwan where my friends are at, alot of family are like this. they follow traditional rules and regulations. pregnancy b4 marriage is a NO-NO-NO.
Who care…pregnant so wat.,y d story must turn up so complicated?
Who cares what other people think… nowadays people get pregnant before marriage… But It is still not recommended
i don’t understand the writers. they are rushing everything and yet they are still adding new chars in (an qing’s husband, xiao xi’s ex)
can’t believe it. they already announced 4/13 is the last ep so they shld focus on closing it and not adding more chars!!!
yu hang is a nice guy, we all know that. and we know he will be responsible, but pregnant b4 marriage, that’s just ridiculous bcuz as a elder brother like role and a teacher, isn’t it a given that he shld play the role where there will be no sexual intercourse till after marriage? maybe shock them with they have been tgt for a year after they grad and wish to marry would be so freaking much better than shcoking them with pregnancy news!!!
i really feel the pregnant script was just horrible. this destroyed the trust li family had for yuhang, would sour relationship and the parents will forever judge yu hang and remember how they are forced to accept the relationship because he slept with their youngest daughter who is still kiddish actually. the family would become really awkward no matter how much they trust yuhang. how to face friends, family and relatives now? haiz…
Yes, I agree with you I dont understand what’s going on with the writers.. I I”m right there with you and everyone else that its just been confusing for the past few episodes. The tumble of QQ’s love life and then XX’s love life. AQ’s going to be hit next..The only thing I CAN do is move forward and watch to see what happens till the very last episode because clearly, the fans/viewers REALLY have no say in this entire drama series anymore.
On a the side note, Melvin and Joanne are the only two actors in the story who are the “comedians”. (where is MDK/FGQ!? He needs to Make Li Papa laugh and lighten the mood!) They didn’t have to do much. haha. They were able to sit in the car and smile. And they were also trying to “Lighten” things up at the breakfast table using the word “coincidence” to try to explain how they met. (So cute.)
Moving along with the episodes.. Hoping for more happy scenes soon.
For once, I agree with Li Mama scolding XS and YH .. this relationship has gone too fast … it does send the wrong message! YH and XS did not think about their parents’ considerations … this saga is going to last another episode ..
On the other hand, looks like QQ’s feelings have turned for the better …
AQ’s ex-husband still dare to show up. What a jerk
Hurhurhur it’s so sad to see the lovebirds not being together to watch their baby growing inside the stomach each day. Just grant them their blessings man!
What YH say to XX at the end, is really touching !!!! I really hope her parents will give them their blessing.
ah ba and ah ma pls just accept them.. tiring looking at them crying and crying
How can the youngest sister be a mum? She is like a child herself!!
yea… shes too young. too idealistic and don’t know the true world yet. still full of dreams zzz
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